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Telling a father
about his son’s quarrel
- The other day I saw a boy fighting with my neighbor’s son,.
Would it be considered rechilus if I told my neighbor that his son was
beaten up by this boy?
- Yes it would be. As a matter of fact, telling your
neighbor can cause great harm. Your neighbor, upon hearing what was done
to his son, might confront the other boy and strike him out of anger. As
a result, the father of the other boy would naturally get into a major
dispute with your neighbor. All of this, as a result of your rechilus. If
we would try to enumerate all the sins that can come out of such rechilus,
they would be too many to count.
- If I know that the other kid started the fight for no good
reason, would I be allowed to tell my neighbor?
- You should still not tell your neighbor unless very
specific conditions are met. We will discuss these conditions in future
lessons, G-d willing.
This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh. Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech. The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.
Oded: The concept of Supporting Torah scholars includes
marrying your daughter to one.
Menaseh: Do you have source for that?
Oded: Sure! The Gemora in Meseches Kesubos says
that the Torah considers one who marries his daughter to a Torah scholar as if
he has clung to the Divine Presence. The Gemora in Meseches Pesachim states: A
person should sell all that he owns so that he may marry the daughter of a
Torah scholar or marry his daughter to a Torah scholar.
Menaseh: I think sometimes people are hesitant to do
so because they are worried about their daughters’ future. Let’s face it,
someone who is learning all day is not going to be as financially stable as a
person who works for a living.
Oded: Those are the words of a person’s evil
inclination. Don’t we firmly believe that Hashem is the provider for all his
creations? Is it logical to assume that Hashem will hold back sustenance from
someone who wants to learn his Torah and keep his mitzvos?
Menaseh: When you look at it from that perspective
what you’re saying makes sense.
Oded: It doesn’t surprise me that people who were
never exposed to the beauty of Torah are not seeking to connect with Torah
scholars. However, the fact that this attitude is prevalent even among those
who were exposed to the beauty of Torah is surprising.
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1) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 7 Par.
2) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 7 Par. 1
Sefer Shmiras Haloshon Sha’ar HaTorah Chap. 5