Lesson 91

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Lesson #91

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Believing rechilus
that was told publicly

  1. If someone told me in front of numerous people what a
    certain individual said about me, am I allowed to believe it?
  1. No you may not.  The fact that he said it in front of many
    people is not adequate proof of its veracity.  You may suspect that
    what he said is true and investigate the matter further if it’s something
    that affects you; for example, if you need to know the information so that
    you can protect yourself from this individual who might be seeking to harm
    you.  If it doesn’t affect you, then you should not investigate it
    further.  Doing so will only result in you violating numerous


Believing rechilus
when told in the presence of the subject

  1. What if he accused the fellow to his face and said “you
    spoke such and such about him” and the fellow remained quiet.  May I
    believe the accusation?  This fellow is not the type of person who remains
    silent when being accused of something.
  1. You still may not believe that the accusation is true. 
    Perhaps this fellow was able to overcome his nature and controlled himself
    this time and didn’t respond.  Or, perhaps he decided that even if he says
    something it will be to no avail, therefore, it’s better to remain silent
    and be from those who don’t respond to insults.


This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh.   Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech.  The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.

Oded:  The Medrash tells us that Klal Yisroel is
compared to a nut tree.

Menaseh:  That’s an interesting comparison.  What is
the similarity?

Oded:  A nut tree is trimmed and then grows back. 
The trimming is good for the tree because it grows back better than before.

Menaseh:  Isn’t that true for all trees?

Oded:  Yes, but the nut tree grows back extra fast.

Menaseh:  So in what way is Klal Yisroel similar to

Oded:  Klal Yisroel is similar in that they also trim
from there earnings and give it to those who toil in Torah.

Menaseh:  I would guess that to round out the
comparison we can say that just as the nut tree benefits from the trimming, so
too, Klal Yisroel benefits from its trimming.

Oded:  That is correct.  By doing so, they will
increase their wealth in this world and receive reward in the world to come.

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