Lesson 90

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Lesson #90

Please verbalize or
have in mind that you are studying this material as a merit for a specific
single and/or Jewish singles throughout the world.



Assuming a
statement is negative

  1. Someone told me that a friend of mine said that I was
    stubborn.  I subsequently verified that he did indeed say that about me but
    I’m not sure if he meant it as a compliment or as an insult.  I must admit
    that I took offense to the comment.  Have I violated the prohibition of
    accepting rechilus by doing so?
  1. In this situation there is obviously no problem in
    believing that your friend called you stubborn since you verified that it
    was true. However, if you can judge him favorably, i.e. that he didn’t
    mean it in a bad way, and you don’t, that would be a violation of
    accepting rechilus.


Rectifying the sin
of believing rechilus

  1. If I already accepted rechilus about someone and bear
    resentment towards that individual, how can I rectify the sin?
  1. You can repair the damage by removing the rechilus from
    your heart, i.e. not believing what you were told.  Even if it’s difficult
    to imagine that the one who told you the rechilus completely fabricated
    the story, consider the possibility that perhaps he left out an important
    detail that can significantly alter the nature of the story.  In addition,
    you must admit to the transgression and resolve not to believe rechilus in
    the future.  By following this procedure, you can fix past transgressions
    of accepting rechilus, providing that you haven’t yet told others.


This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh.   Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech.  The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.

Oded:  Here is yet another example of the great
reward for benefiting Torah scholars.  The Navi tells us that Hashem blessed
the house of Oved on account of him taken care of the Ark of Hashem.

Menaseh:  How does that relate to a Torah scholar?

Oded:  Rebbi Eliezer pointed out the Aron didn’t eat
or drink.  All that was nessessary to do was to sweep and clean before it.  If
this is the reward for caring for the Aron of Hashem, imagine how much greater
the reward will be for hosting and providing for a living Torah scholar.  The
great Torah scholar, Rebbi Meir gave a large percentage of his income to
support Torah scholars.

Menaseh:  How much did he give?

Oded:  The Medrash tells us that Rebbi Meir was a
proficient scribe.  A third of his earnings he would spend on food a third on
clothing and the remaining third he would use to support Torah scholars.

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1) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 5 Par. 6

2) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 5 Par. 7


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