Lesson 89

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Lesson #89

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Listening to
rechilus to protect yourself


  1. If I see things that arouse within me a suspicion that a
    certain individual wants to harm me, may I inquire about it from others so
    that I may protect myself?
  1. Yes you may, since your intention is not to arouse hatred
    but rather to protect yourself from harm.  However, it is important to
    strengthen yourself not to believe what they tell you.  Even if many
    people tell you the same thing, you may only suspect.


  1. If I find out from others that he indeed does want to harm
    me, how am I to relate to him?
  1. As was mentioned above, you are only allowed to suspect
    but not believe.  Therefore, regarding all matters, you must treat him
    like any other Jew.  You may not harm him in any way or embarrass him or
    even feel hatred towards him in your heart.  You may not absolve yourself
    from any obligations you have towards him and you are still obligated to
    do any of the favors that the Torah requires of us to do for our fellow
    Jew; i.e. lend him money, give tzedoka, etc.  You may suspect that what
    you were told may be true only in regards to protecting yourself from him.


This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh.   Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech.  The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.

Oded:  Here is an example of the reward in store for
those who benefit Torah scholars.  Before Shaul Hamelech embarked on his
mission to wipe out Amalek, he sent a message to the Kaini, who were the
offspring of Yisro; warning them to remove themselves from the territory of Amalek lest they perish along with them.

Menaseh:  Why did Shaul extend to them that special

Oded:  Because Yisro benefited Klal Yisroel.

Menaseh:  When?

Oded:  When he took Moshe into his home after Moshe
fled from Paraoh.

Menaseh:  So what’s the great lesson here?

Oded:  Yisro merely did it for his own sake, so that
Moshe should marry one of his daughters; yet, as a result of benefiting a Torah
scholar, he merited that many generations later his offspring were spared from

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1) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 5 Par. 3

2) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 5 Par. 4


Sefer Shmiras Haloshon Sha’ar HaTorah Chap. 5

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