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- Someone told me that my friend said derogatory things
about me; may I believe him?
- No. The prohibition against believing loshon horah applies
to rechilus as well. Our sages teach us that Rechilus kills 3 people: the
teller, the one who accepts it, and the one whom it was told about. We
see this from the story of Doeg who spoke rechilus about the city of Nov to Shaul. In the end, all 3 perished as a result. Additionally, our sages teach us
that the one who believes loshon horah or rechilus is worse than the one
who tells it. The Gemora in Meseches Pesachim derives from the
juxtaposition of the pesukim that one who tells loshon horah or rechilus
is fit to be thrown to the dogs.
- What about if I commit myself not to believe the rechilus;
am I allowed to listen to it?
- No you may not. Even listening without believing is
forbidden. However, there is an exception. If you detect that someone
wants to harm you, you may listen to rechilus about him so that you may
know how to protect yourself. However, even under such circumstances, you
may only suspect that what you’re hearing might be true in order to
protect yourself, but under no circumstances are you to accept the
rechilus as fact.
This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh. Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech. The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.
Oded: Would you like to hear about the greatness of
supporting Torah and benefiting Torah scholars?
Oded: The posuk in Devarim states: “And you who are
attached to Hashem your G-d, you are all alive today”.
Menaseh: How is it possible to attach ones self To
Oded: Our sages teach us that if one who marries his
daughter to a Torah scholar or does business with a Torah scholar or benefits a
Torah scholar from his possessions; it is considered as if he is attached to
the divine countenance.
Menaseh: So in other words, clinging to Torah
scholars is the equivalent of clinging to Hashem.
Oded: That’s correct. Along those same lines, our
sages teach us that if one hosts a Torah scholar and gives him pleasure from
his possessions, it is considered as if he offered the daily sacrifice that was
offered in the Bais Hamikdash.
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1) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 5 Par. 1
2) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 5 Par. 2
Sefer Shmiras Haloshon Sha’ar HaTorah Chap. 5