Lesson 85

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Lesson #85

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Telling rechilus
to a third party


  1. My friend Rachel said something about my classmate that I
    know would upset her greatly.  Suppose I tell my sister what Rachel said
    about my classmate, would that be considered rechilus?  After all, I
    didn’t tell my classmate about it.
  1. It is still considered rechilus.  There is a tendency for
    such gossip to travel.  If it reaches the ears of your classmate, she will
    certainly harbor resentment towards Rachel for what she said.  If you are
    the source of this gossip, you are bringing hatred onto a fellow Jew, and are
    therefore in violation of rechilus.


  1. What if I tell my sister not to reveal what I’m telling
    her to anyone?  I know my sister can keep a secret.
  1. You should still avoid telling her, because even if word
    doesn’t get back to your classmate, most often such speech contains loshon
    horah as well.


This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh.   Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech.  The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.

Oded:  When people leave work and go home or sit on
the street corners or engage in idol talk they are disgracing the Torah.

Menaseh:  How so?

Oded:  If they truly believe that there is no limit
to the great reward for those who learn Torah, why wouldn’t they go to the Bais
Medrash and learn?

Menaseh:  Maybe they are just lazy.

Oded:  Yet when it comes time to go to their work,
they do it with great alacrity, even though they know it’s empty.  How then can
they forget their eternal life in the world to come and not dedicate at least a
few hours of their day to learn Torah?

Menaseh:  So what’s the answer?

Oded:  It comes from a lack of appreciation for

Menaseh:  What should a person do so as not to be
guilty of desecrating Hashem’s Torah?

Oded:  He should set aside a room in his home to
which he can retire when he comes home from work and spend some time their,
each day, learning Torah.

Menaseh:  Perhaps it’s a good idea to fine ones self
for any day that he doesn’t spend time learning.

Oded:  That’s an excellent idea if it will serve as a
motivation for daily learning!

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