Lesson 84

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Lesson #84

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Rechilus in the
presence of the subject

  1. I was speaking with my friend when she stopped someone who
    was passing by and asked her why she spoke derogatorily about me.  I was
    wondering if that’s rechilus, since she confronted the person directly.
  1. By confronting her in front of you, even though she
    obviously said it also in front of the person whom it was about, she is in
    violation of rechilus.  As a matter of fact, saying it in front of the subject
    is a greater sin; since now you are more likely to believe the rechilus.



  1. Someone told me that a certain friend of mine said
    something nasty about me.  May I confront this friend about it?
  1. If your friend he will be able to figure out who revealed
    to you what he said about you, you will be in violation of rechilus; since
    your friend will certainly harbor resentment towards the person who told


This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh.   Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech.  The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.

Oded:  One who doesn’t toil in Torah is distant from

Menaseh:  What’s the source?

Oded:  The Zohar.  The Zohar states that Hashem is
distant from him in that Hashem’s countenance doesn’t rest upon him. 
Additionally, all those who normally watch over him, depart from him.  It is
also announced: “distance yourselves from so and so for he doesn’t care about
the honor of the king”.

Menaseh:  That sounds quite severe.

Oded:  In addition fires abound as a result of one
who doesn’t toil in Torah.

Menaseh:  How is that?

Oded:  The Gemora in Meseches Sanhedrin states that a
house in which words of Torah are not heard in it at night, will be consumed by
fire.  And as you know, all Jews are responsible for one another.

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