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Lesson #54

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Halachah

How to undo the
sin of believing loshon horah

#1

1. What should I do if I already believed the loshon horah?

1. You can undo the damage by following these 3 steps:
1. Remove the belief from your heart.  (You may suspect but
   not believe.)
2. Vidui (Verbally admitting your sin)
3. Accept upon yourself not to believe loshon horah in the
   future.

This is assuming that you only
believed the loshon horah but did not yet go and tell others.  If you already told
others, you would need to appease the person whom you spoke about as well.

#2

1. If I believed loshon horah about someone, must I seek his
   forgiveness?

1. If you were successful in removing the belief from your
   heart, you have uprooted the damage (between man and his friend)
   retroactively; therefore, you do not need to seek his forgiveness.  This
   is assuming that no damage resulted to him on account of you believing the
   loshon horah.  However, if he was harmed as a result of you believing the
   loshon horah, for example, you stopped doing business with him; then you
   would need to seek his forgiveness.

Aggadah

This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh.   Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech.  The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.

Oded:  Something that’s considered good in the eyes
of a poor person is not necessarily considered good in the eyes of someone who
is not poor.

Menaseh:  I agree.

Oded:  And something that’s considered good in the
eyes of one who is not poor, is not necessarily considered good in the eyes of
a wealthy person.

Menaseh:  True.

Oded:  And something that’s considered valuable in
the eyes of a wealthy person, is not necessarily valuable in the eyes of a
king.

Menaseh:  Right again.

Oded:  And something that’s considered valuable in
the eyes of a king, is not necessarily valuable to an angel.

Menaseh:  For example?

Oded:  Conquering a nation, might be very important
to a king, but means nothing to an angel.  Our sages teach us that there are
angels who measure thousand of miles long.

Menaseh:  I see.

Oded:  Something that’s good in the eyes of Hashem, the
creator of all worlds, is certainly worthy of being deemed as absolute good.

Menaseh:  And what might that be.

Oded:  All of Hashem’s creations are considered
unimportant in his eyes with the exception of one creation; Torah.

Menaseh:  From where do you know that?

Oded:  From a posuk in Mishlei.  The posuk states: ‘For
I have given you a good teaching, do not forsake my Torah”.  If Hashem
calls the Torah good, then we can be certain that it is absolute good.

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Sources

Halachah

1) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 1 Chap. 6 Par. 12 Be’er Mayim
Chaim 34

2) Implied from Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 1 Chap. 6 Par. 12 and
Be’er Mayim Chaim 33

Agaddah

Sefer Shmiras Haloshon Sha’ar Hatorah Chap. 1