Lesson 38
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Lesson #38
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Halachah
Speaking loshon
horah about someone who consistently doesn’t lend money
#1
- My friend asked a wealthy person in our community for a
loan and was turned down. I know this person has the means to lend him
the money and it’s only out of his excessive stinginess that he refused
him the loan. May I go public with this despicable behavior?
- No you may not. Even though we previously learned that
when you see someone harming a fellow Jew you may publicize it under the 7
conditions listed in the appendix below, this case is different. Not
lending money is not an act of causing harm to a fellow Jew but rather
just not doing him a favor. The allowance to speak loshon horah about him
applies only when he actually harmed a fellow Jew.
#2
- What if I know that this person never lends money to anyone?
Isn’t that violating the mitzvah of lending money to one who’s in need?
Didn’t we learn in previous lessons that one who consistently and
purposefully violates a mitzvah of Hashem is no longer considered a part
of the Jewish nation? Therefore, in this case, the prohibition of
speaking loshon horah shouldn’t apply.
- Violating the mitzvah of lending money is different for 2
reasons: - He does not violate the mitzvah through an action but
rather through his inaction. Therefore, even consistent violation, does
not remove him from the Jewish nation. - There is room for rationalization (i.e. it’s only a nice
midda to lend money and not an obligation; I’m concerned he won’t pay me
back, etc.). Even though these rationalizations may have no legitimate
basis; since it’s possible that he is mistakenly relying on them, his
consistent violation does not remove him from the Jewish nation.
Note: If you know someone who can influence this person
to change his ways, you may tell that person under the 7 conditions listed in
the appendix below.
Aggadah
This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh. Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech. The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.
Oded: We mentioned 7 possible causes that can lead a
person to freely speak loshon horah. They were:
·
Anger
·
Frivolity
·
Arrogance
·
Hopelessness
·
Abandonment
·
Complaining nature
·
Rationalization
Menaseh: We were discussing cause #5, abandonment.
Yesterday, you were asking me if G-d forbid, I was ill with a terrible illness
and a famous and successful doctor came to town, would I run to see him, even
if others with the same illness were not doing so.
Oded: And do you recall your response?
Menaseh: I said of course I would! Why would I pay
attention to what other are doing if my life might depend on it?
Oded: I would like to suggest that regarding loshon
horah as well, why pay attention to what others are doing, since your life is
surely dependent on it?
Menaseh: Are you saying that refraining from loshon
horah can save my life?
Oded: It’s not I saying that, but rather, the
greatest doctor of them all!
Menaseh: And who might that be?
Oded: Dovid Hamelech.
Menaseh: Where does he say that?
Oded: In Tehilim. “Who is the man who seeks life…
guard your tongue from evil”.
Menaseh: How does this relate back to abandonment?
Oded: You said that you were ready to ignore what
other people were doing when it came time to seek a cure for an illness.
Menaseh: Correct.
Oded: I would suggest that even if other people have
abandoned guarding their tongue from evil speech, you should not.
Menaseh: Can you elaborate?
Oded: Sure! Guarding your tongue from evil speech
will guarantee you eternal life in the world to come. Not guarding your tongue
will guarantee you eternal affliction in the world to come as well as suffering
in this world. Why pay attention to the behavior of others when your eternal
life is dependent on this?
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Sources
Halachah
1) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 1 Chap. 5 Par.
1
2) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 1 Chap. 5 Be’er Mayim
Chaim 5
Agaddah
Sefer Shmiras Haloshon Sha’ar Hatevunah Chap. 15
Appendix
The 7 Conditions
1. You either saw it yourself or heard about it and subsequently verified
its veracity.
2. You must not rush to judgment, but rather weigh carefully whether what
he did is indeed halachicly considered a sin.
3. Before you go public, you must first attempt to gently rebuke him.
4. You must be careful not to exaggerate the transgression.
5. You intentions must be for the right reasons and not out of hatred for
the individual or for personal gain.
6. If you can bring about the same benefit some other way with out
publicizing this fellow’s transgression, then you may not go public.
7. Publicizing his transgression mustn’t cause him more damage than would
be due to him in Beis Din.