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have in mind that you are studying this material as a merit for a specific
single and/or Jewish singles throughout the world.
What kind of sins may
you not reveal?
- In a previous lesson you mentioned that if you see a
friend who is generally G-d fearing, commit a sin, you may not reveal it
to anyone. What kind of sins are you referring to?
- All sins; whether severe in nature, like violating Shabbos,
immoral relations, etc., or rabbinic violations; or even if they are
merely instructions of the more preferable way to conduct oneself and not
actual violations. If you’ve only seen him transgress once and he is
generally careful in his mitzvah observance, you should approach him
privately and gently rebuke him for his transgression. However, you may
not reveal his transgression to anyone.
- Would I be permitted to say about a friend that he doesn’t
learn much Torah? Unfortunately, in today’s society, this is not so
uncommon and therefore people might not look down upon him for it.
- It is forbidden. Since according to your words he is
doing something that’s wrong, it is considered loshon horah.
- How about saying that someone is stingy with his money or
doesn’t honor the Shabbos properly? After all, I’m not saying that he’s
committing a sin, but rather that he’s not performing the mitzvah to its
- Even though you aren’t accusing him of committing a sin,
you are speaking derogatorily about him. It would therefore be considered
This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh. Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech. The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.
Oded: We mentioned 7 possible causes that can lead a
person to freely speak loshon horah. They were:
Menaseh: Have you any more to say on the topic of
Oded: One last thing. Our sages teach us in
Meseches Nedarim that all those who get angry; all forms of Gehinom dominate
Menaseh: What do you mean by all forms of Gehinom?
How many forms are there?
Oded: Many! In Gehinom there is a unique form of
punishment for every type of sin.
Menaseh: So why is one who gets angry punished, with
all forms of Gehinom and not just the form of Gehinom for the sin of anger?
Oded: Because someone who gets angry is liable to
violate almost all forms of sin. Therefore, as a result of his anger, he will
be punished with all forms of Gehinom.
Menaseh: So back to our original point. Someone who
is afflicted with anger, will inevitably speak loshon horah.
Oded: Correct; and the only way to prevent that from
happening, is by rooting out ones anger.
Menaseh: This is certainly no easy feet!
Oded: Agreed; however, from all that we’ve mentioned
over the past few days, I thing you’ll agree that anger is a very destructive and
Menaseh: I agree; and I certainly see the urgency of
removing it from ones heart.
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1) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 1 Chap. 4 Par.
2) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 1 Chap. 4 Par. 2
Sefer Shmiras Haloshon Sha’ar Hatevunah Chap. 13