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    1. Definitions: 

Loshon Horah: Any form of
communication that is either derogatory or brings harm onto another Jew.

Motzei Shem Rah: Loshon
Horah with falsehood mixed in.

Rechilus: Any form of
communication that will bring hatred or dislike on a fellow Jew.

Baal Loshon Horah: one who
habitually speaks loshon horah.  He will lose his lips and his portion in the
world to come

    1. Violations:

As a result of speaking loshon
horah one can violate up to 31 commandments of Hashem; 17 negative commandments
and 14 positive commandments.  In addition, he can receive 4 curses.

    1. It is forbidden to speak loshon horah:

Even if your parent or Rebbi command you to.

Even if you’ll lose all your material

Even if by refraining people will think you’re
mentally challenged.

Even through writing, sign language, or hinting.

Even in front of 3 or more people.

Even in the presence of the person who the loshon
horah is about.

Even as a joke, if it’s derogatory or harms the
person whom you are speaking about.

Even without using names, if it can be discovered
whom you spoke about.

    1. A statement that can be interpreted as either positive
      or negative, depending on the intonation, may be made:

If you would say it in the same tone in front of
the person whom it’s about.

If you say it in front of 3 or more people.

    1. A statement made in front of 3 or more people (in
      the opinion of some Rishonim) may be repeated by the listeners under
      the following circumstances:

Loshon horah: may be repeated by the
listeners under very limited circumstances as delineated in lesson 6 (see
appendix below).  Note: It’s advisable not to rely on this leniency, since
according to many Rishonim there’s no source for it.

Teller’s personal business matter: May be
repeated even with the intention of spreading the word.  However, all remaining
conditions (see below) must be adhered to.

Teller’s personal matter: Same as above. 
However, if the teller revealed something derogatory about himself, you may not
intentionally spread the word.

    1. Miscellaneous:

Voting: You may not reveal how you voted if
it will bring more hatred on those who outvoted you.

Rav’s Drasha: It’s a terrible sin to degrade
a Rav’s drasha in front of others.


This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh.   Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech.  The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.

Oded:  The Sefer Chareidim writes that even though a
person is obligated in all the mitzvos, he should nevertheless grab hold of one
mitzvah very tightly and be careful not to violate it his entire life.

Menaseh:  Why?

Oded:  The Torah is called Eitz Chaim, a tree of
life.  One who grabs hold of one branch of a tree is in essence holding the
entire tree because the tree is really one body.  However, one who tries to
grasp all the branches together will end up with nothing.  The Gemora in
Shabbos actually lists various sages who excelled in one specific mitzvah.

Menaseh:  Would you mind sharing that?

Oded:  Not at all.  Rav Nachman said: “Good reward
should come to me because I (meticulously) fulfilled the obligation of eating 3
meals on Shabbos”.  Rav Sheshes said: “Good reward should come to me for I
fulfilled the mitzvah of Tefillin, i.e. I didn’t walk 4 amos without Tefillin”. 
Rav Nachman said: “Good reward should come to me because I fulfilled the
mitzvah of Tzizis, i.e. I didn’t walk 4 amos without Tzizis”.  Rav Yosef said
to Rav Yosef the son of Raba” “In what was your father especially meticulous?” 
Rav Yosef the son of Raba responded: “In the mitzvah of Tzizis.  One day he was
climbing a ladder and one of the strings ripped.  He didn’t descend until the
Tzizis was repaired”.

Menaseh:  How is this related to loshon horah?

Oded:  I will elaborate tomorrow.

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1) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 1 Chap. 1, 2,
and 3 through Par. 6


Sefer Shmiras Haloshon Section 1 Chasimas HaSefer Chap. 3



Conditions for
sharing loshon horah heard in the presents of 3 or more people

Your intention must not be to spread the word

There is an opinion that you may only pass on the
loshon horah if it comes up casually in the course of conversation.

Only the 3 original listeners are permitted to
share the loshon horah, and not those who heard it second hand.

If any of the 3 listeners are G-d fearing
individuals who are careful not to speak loshon horah, this leniency is
rendered invalid.

It is permitted only in the city which the original
loshon horah was spoken in front of the 3 listeners.

If the original teller told the listeners not to
share what he told them, the leniency is invalid.

It is forbidden for the 3 listeners to embellish
the story or to indicate in any way that they believe it to be true.

If it’s negative information about a person’s past,
but now this person has changed for the better, it is forbidden to mention his
past, even if it was told in front of 3 people.

If you know that the listener is the type of person
who will accept what you tell him as fact and perhaps even embellish it, it is
forbidden to share the loshon horah with him, even if you heard it in front of
3 people.

2 people telling 2 people isn’t the same as one
person telling 3 and therefore does not qualify for this leniency.

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