Lesson 114

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Lesson #114

Please verbalize or
have in mind that you are studying this material as a merit for a specific
single and/or Jewish singles throughout the world.


More on
partnership advice


  1. I have a friend who wants to embark on a business venture
    with someone who has been involved in ventures with other people and lost money,
    due to his own unstable financial situation.  May I inform my friend of
  1. If your friend asked you about it you are permitted to
    inform him, providing that all the conditions previously mentioned are met
    (See appendix below).  If your friend has not inquired about it, the
    Chofetz Chaim is in doubt as to whether you may take the initiative and
    inform him on your own.


  1. If my friend is already a partner with someone whom I know
    is not careful with other people’s money, may I inform him?
  1. It depends.  If you know that your friend won’t dissolve
    the partnership based on your words, but rather he will proceed cautiously
    and keep an eye out for inaccuracies, then you must inform him, providing
    the previously mentioned conditions are met.  However, if you know that he
    will dissolve the partnership based on your words, or take other harmful actions
    against his partner without first consulting with Beis Din, then you may
    not tell him.


This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh.   Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech.  The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.

Oded:  It’s is a grave matter to remove ones son from
Torah learning in his teen years.

Menaseh:  Why is it so grave?

Oded:  Because the young lad will remain empty of
Torah and mitzvos.  His main desire in life will be to expand his material
wealth and well being.  Imagine the shame a father will have to face in the world
of truth for this.

Menaseh:  Well, let’s face it, not everybody is cut
out to be a Rabbi or teacher.

Oded:  Every Jew needs Torah knowledge.  The posuk in
Tehillim states: “The commandments of Hashem are clear, they enlighten the eyes”. 
The posuk is telling us that a person without Torah is similar to a blind
person walking along a road filled with obstacles.  He is in grave danger of being
injured.  Similarly, a person without Torah to guide him will not only lack
many many mitzvos due to his lack of knowledge as to what is a mitzvah, but he
will instead replace them with many many sins, thinking that they are in fact mitzvos.

Menaseh:  Why is that?

Oded:  As a result of his complete ignorance.  Even
the mitzvos that he does perform will be without joy and certainly not stem
from love or fear of Hashem.  Additionally, they will be defective since he
doesn’t know how to perform them properly.

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1) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 9,
second illustration, Be’er Mayim Chaim 2 

2) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 9, second
illustration, Par. 2


Sefer Shmiras Haloshon Sha’ar HaTorah Chap. 7


1.      Don’t be hasty in arriving at a decision about the nature of the person
or situation but rather deliberate carefully.

2.      Do not exaggerate the matter.

3.      Your intentions should be solely to help the individual whom you are
advising and not out of hatred for the other party.

4.      If you can bring about the benefit some other way, without telling
loshon horah, then it is forbidden to tell the loshon horah.

You may not inflict any harm; you may only
prevent the other party from receiving a benefit.

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