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Lesson # 112
Please verbalize or
have in mind that you are studying this material as a merit for a specific
single and/or Jewish singles throughout the world.
How to respond
when you are under suspicion
- My boss asked me if I know who forgot to lock the door to
the building last night. I can tell that he suspects it was me. May I
tell him who really did it?
- Absolutely not! Telling him who did it would be
considered rechilus. You may, however, tell him that it wasn’t you.
- I sell artwork for a living. A customer requested that I
put an item aside for him. A short while later, another customer walked
in and pressured me to sell him the item that I had put aside for the
first customer. When the first customer returns, may I tell him what
- You may tell him that you were pressured into selling it,
but you may not tell him who pressured you. The sale to the second
customer is valid; therefore, the first customer has no halachicly
legitimate recourse. Telling him who pressured you, will only cause him
to harbor resentment towards the one who pressured you, and therefore
would be considered rechilus.
- What if I tell the first customer who it was who pressured
me, but I explain that it was my fault, since I didn’t inform the second
customer that it was already reserved?
- It is still forbidden to tell him who pressured you, since
even in this case it’s very likely that the first customer will harbor
resentment towards the one who pressured you. He will view him as someone
who is encroaching on his livelihood. It is best to just state that you
mistakenly sold it to someone else.
This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh. Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech. The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.
Oded: Here is another story brought down in Sefer Tana
D’bei Eliyahu which illustrates the same point.
Menaseh: Which point?
Oded: How a son can save his father from judgment in
Menaseh: Pleas go ahead with the story.
Oded: Rebbi Yochanan ben Zachai said: “Once, as I
was walking along the way, I happened upon a person who was gathering wood. I attempted
to engage him in conversation but he did not respond. Afterwards, he came
towards me and said: “Rebbi I am a dead man, I am not alive”. So I said to him:
“If you’re dead why do you need this wood?” He responded: “Rebbi listen to
this one thing that I must tell you. When I was alive, I and a friend were
involved in sin in my mansion. When we arrived here, they decreed upon us the
punishment of burning. When I gather wood they burn my friend with it and when
he gathers wood they burn me.” So I asked him: “For how long is your
punishment? He said to me: “When I arrived here I left my wife pregnant and I
know that she will give birth to a boy. Therefore, I ask of you please be
careful, from the time he is born until he is five, to take him to the house of
his Rebbi to learn Chumash; because from the moment he says Borechu es
Hashem Hamevorach they will remove me from punishment in Gehinom.”
Menaseh: The stories that you’ve related really show
the tremendous importance of providing our sons with a Torah education!
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1) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 9 Par.
2) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 9 Par. 15
Sefer Shmiras Haloshon Sha’ar HaTorah Chap. 7