Lesson 107

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Lesson #107

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Reporting damage
that you’ve witnessed


  1. Yesterday I saw someone damage my neighbor’s car, May I
    tell him?
  1. You must first attempt to rebuke the perpetrator on your
    own.  If that doesn’t help, then you may tell your neighbor, providing you
    adhere to the previously mentioned conditions.  For the sake of
    convenience and review, we will list them again.
    1. Don’t be hasty in arriving at a decision about the nature
      of the person or situation but rather deliberate carefully.
    2. Do not exaggerate the matter.
    3. Your intentions should be solely to help the individual
      whom you are advising and not out of hatred for the other party.
    4. If you can bring about the benefit some other way, without
      telling rechilus, then it is forbidden to tell the rechilus.
    5. Your words may not cause him more harm than would be due
      to him in Bais Din.


  1. Does it make a difference if my neighbor asked me who
    damaged his car?
  1. It does not make a difference whether your neighbor asked
    you or you want to volunteer the information on your own.  If the above
    conditions are met, you must tell him even if he didn’t solicit the information. 
    If the conditions are not met you may not tell him, even if he inquired
    about it.


This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh.   Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech.  The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.

Menaseh:  You were speaking yesterday about the
importance of providing a complete Torah education for our children.  The truth
is I understand your point but the cost can be absolutely prohibitive.

Oded:  Yet, when it comes to providing materially for
our families, we put ourselves out, fully; sometimes even doing things that we
shouldn’t with the justification that we’re doing it for the purpose of
sustaining our family.

Menaseh:  What’s your point?

Oded:  My point is if we do all that for the material
well being of our family how much more should we be doing for the spiritual
well being of our children.  To send a child to college, people spend
fortunes.  Isn’t Torah education infinitely more important than college?

Menaseh:  I guess I must admit that you’re correct.

Oded:  The truth is what you pay for your children’s
Torah education is off budget.

Menaseh:  What does that mean?

Oded:  On Rosh Hashana Hashem decrees how much
sustenance each person will receive for the coming year.  The cost of tuition
for your child’s Torah education is not included in that amount.

Menaseh:  So how is that cost supposed to be covered?

Oded:  Whatever you end up paying for it will be
added on to the amount that was decreed for you on Rosh Hashana.

Menaseh:  Does that mean that no matter how much I
pay for my child’s Torah education, that amount will be reimbursed?

Oded:  Precisely!  If you spend $10,000 on tuition,
you will receive $10,000 more than was decreed for you on Rosh Hashana.

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