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Lesson #100

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Halachah

#1

Accepting rechilus
from a spouse

1. Is their any leniency to accept rechilus from my spouse?

1. Absolutely not!  As a matter of fact, doing so can be
   quite detrimental.  If your spouse sees that you are lending your ear to
   his/her rechilus he/she will continue to share with you such slander;
   leading you to a life filled with strife and contention.  The correct
   approach would be to rebuke your spouse when he/she share with you such
   information, making it clear to him/her that you have no interest in such
   speech.

#2

The dust of
rechilus

1. If someone asks me what his friend said about him and I
   tell him that his friend said: “Don’t get me started, I don’t want to tell
   you what happened with him”, is that considered rechilus?

1. It would certainly fall under the category of “Avak
   Rechilus” the dust of rechilus, and might even be considered actual
   rechilus.  (Avak rechilus is a term used to describe speech that
   might not be actual rechilus but is still forbidden because of its
   similarities to rechilus)

Aggadah

This section is
formatted as a conversation between Oded and Menaseh.   Oded is encouraging his
friend Menaseh to be more careful in guarding his tongue from evil speech.  The
thoughts in this section are primarily based on the sefer, Shmiras Haloshon.

Oded:  We were discussing the importance of
establishing Yeshivos in every city.

Menaseh:  The truth is even existing yeshivos are
struggling.

Oded:  You are correct.  It is of utmost importance
to make sure that the Yeshivos don’t collapse under financial pressure.  The
yeshivos are the life blood of the Jewish nation.  What answer will we have
when we stand before Hashem and He asks us what did we do to ensure that Torah
remains vibrant throughout Klal Yisroel?

Menaseh:  Not everybody has the ability to ensure
that Yeshivos are established and maintained.

Oded:  You’re right.  The bulk of the responsibility
lies with the leaders in the communities.  They are the ones who can carry the
issue and do something about it as well.  Our sages teach us that leaders of
communities will be held responsible for the shortcomings of their communities
since they were in a position to mend what needs fixing.

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Sources

Halachah

1) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 7 Par.
5

2) Sefer Chofetz Chaim Sec. 2 Chap. 8 Par. 1

Agaddah

Sefer Shmiras Haloshon Sha’ar HaTorah Chap. 6